MY STORY

Where do I begin?  In a nutshell, I have 3 children by 3 different men. We have had our ups and downs, but our relationships never dictated the relationships they were to maintain with their children.  My children are now 21 (son), and my daughters (19 and 13).  When I separated from each father, I let them know that it was their responsibility to maintain a relationship with their child.

NOW, I never did say I got along with my children’s fathers at all times, but my children NEVER knew when I was mad at their fathers.   They didn’t need to know. I always told my children’s fathers that they themselves would prove what type of fathers they were and that would not have to say anything negative to encourage the decisions of my children. 

Now as my children got older, they were able to make their own decisions and choices.

I had one friend that use to always say, how much he wished his children’s mother was like me because I didn’t try to do everything in my power to make the lives of my children’s fathers a living hell.  He also liked the fact that in the 13 years that he and I were friends, he never knew of me to have different men around my children all the time. 

With that being said, I showed my children how to love, and respect the well being of others, and that they were not meant to judge anybody no matter how much they may have disappointed you.  I instilled in my children that God was the only judge of man, and that if He judged us and did not forgive us, only God knows where we would be.